Mar 21, 2018
Uncle Bob is dead.
Getting the news of his death has left me feeling ashamed
because I was mean and cruel to him. I had not spoken to Bob in 7
years because I was angry at him for being mean and cruel to my
dad. Hate and anger is poison in your life because the person you
are holding a grudge against just might drop dead and then your
issue with that person will never be resolved.
The truth of the matter is that my Uncle Bob was a very
important person to me. Had he not done stand up comedy in
Washington D.C. in 1978 then my dad would have not taken me to see
him and I might not have turned out to be a stand up comedian.
After he died I was flooded with good memories of him and I will be
forever haunted by the fact that neither one of us reached out to
each other to fix the ill feelings that kept us using silence
against each other.
My Uncle Bob's life was a victory because he found a woman who
loved him, he had a successful career and he retired to a lovely
farm in Vermont.
This episode is a repeat. It was recorded in July 2009 in
his back yard just after the sun went down. It was the 2nd podcast
I ever posted. We were a little drunk when we recorded this and I
only had one microphone that we passed back and forth. It is a
happy memory and his advice to me at the end about getting your
soul damaged is invaluable.
Of the many happy memories I have of him one of them happened
while I was visiting him when I was in my 30s. The James Taylor
song 'Shower The People' came on the radio and he sang it to me as
he hugged me tight. I would give anything to have that moment back
I wish that he were still alive so that I could tell him "I'm
sorry Bob. I love you."